#GirlBoner Solo Sex: 5 Masturbation Tips Worth Trying

It would make sense, right? Masturbation is the most common form of sex of all time and invites countless awesome benefits, from improved moods, partner sex and orgasmic euphoria to a lowered risk for heart disease. Talk about sexy medicine!

As you may know, May is National Masturbation Month (thanks to all of you who’ve dropped me notes with reminders!). In other words, it’s as perfect a time as any to seek out ways to make the most of our self-lovemaking time. 😉

5 Masturbation Tips Worth Trying

1. Throw a solo self-love party. What’s the last nurturing thing you did for yourself? What about your body? Setting aside time for a bit of solo Girl Boner love is a beautiful way to show yourself, body, sexuality and even your partner—who will benefit from your many perks—that you care. Pour some wine, light candles, start the romantic tunes or an erotic video and play! Short on time? A solo quickie can help zap the lows of a long or stressful day and help you snooze better later. For even more sexiness, tell your partner about it later. (Ooh, la LA!)

2. Try new positions or toys. Would you want to make love with a partner exactly the same way time after time? Adding variety to your solo-sex life brings more fun and novelty to the experience while teaching you new techniques and turn-ons you can enjoy with or without a partner thereafter. If you typically have sex in bed, try the sofa or ride on a pillow-topped footstool. If you normally use a vibrator, try a dildo or your fingers. If you tend to lie on your front or back, try lying sideways.

3. Get yourself off in public. Well, fairly in public. 😉 Dr. Jennifer Landa, a physician and author of The Sex Drive Solution for Women, suggests having solo sex just about anywhere using a vibrating device you can slip into your panties and operate with a cordless remote. (I’m not sure how my highly sensitive clitoris would react to this, but it seems worth trying!) You could also have your partner operate the controls — YOWZA — or try hiding away in a restroom or your car to subtly bring yourself to climax through other means. Obviously, discreetness is important. 

4. Add nipple-gasms to the mix. Research shows that stimulating our nipples lights up the brain much like genital stimulation does. Cosmopolitan writer Natasha Burton recommends spending a few minutes playing with your nipples during masturbation, which, she says, brings many women to the scrumptious Big O. Use your fingers or try a nipple sucker, such as these devices, which can also be used on your clit.

Credit: Wiley Publishing/Barry Komisaruk

5. Make it a priority.  We women are notorious for putting others’ needs before our own. If you love your body enough to stay physically active, eat well or see your doctor annually (I hope you do!) but fail to consider sexual self-TLC, you could be seriously missing out. Loving yourself through solo-sex helps facilitate healthier, happier intimate relationships, keeps our libido strong and improves our physical and emotional health. And heck. It’s a lot cheaper than therapy! (Not that there’s anything wrong with therapy, of course.) Put it on your calendar, if need be. You and your Girl Boner deserve it!

For more Masturbation Month fun, check out Kitt Crescendo’s post, Lessons in Going Solo. She’s shared groovy tips on partner masturbation, lubing your way to sexy bliss and more.

Which tip intrigues you most? Any to add to my list? As always, I adore your respectful thoughts! ♥

Posted by August McLaughlin on May 19, 2014

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