Sexy DIY Gifts to Spice Up the Holidays

“A wise lover values not so much the gift of the lover as the love of the giver.” — Thomas á Kempis

Last week I took a poll, asking Girl Boner® fans to share their favorite sexy or sensual gift they’d ever received. I was happily surprised when every response described a DIY gift.

The moral of the story? Set concerns over pricey purchases aside and focus on creative thoughtfulness this year, keeping your partner’s wants and needs in mind. Consider the following ideas, or come up with your own. Chances are, you’ll arouse the whole holiday season for you both.

Fun and Sexy DIY Gifts

A handmade satin blindfold

This idea comes from Dawn, who called this gift “delicious and used often.” Put your sewing skills to work by stitching a simple blindfold to conceal his or her eyes during sexy play. If sewing isn’t your thing, purchase a silky sleep mask to decorate with rhinestones or your lover’s name.

Sexy photos

This is one of my favorite gifts I’ve ever given, the experience of which ended up being a gift to myself as well. (Isn’t that how sexy gifts work?) Have sensual photos taken by a trusted photographer, or snap some erotic selfies to organize in an album or picture frame. If you’re concerned about privacy issues, check out my chat with Dr. Megan Fleming in part two of this Girl Boner® Radio episode for awesome tips!

Love oils and a massage

Several people told me massages top their sensual gift list. Prepare a sexy gift basket containing oil such as Good Clean Love®’s Indian Spice Love Oil. The natural, aphrodisiac-infused oil has a sweet and spicy aroma and is safe to kiss! Include a handmade coupon for a massage, and a pretty candle for ambiance.

A velvet bathrobe

Did you know that body temperature plays a major role in arousal? Rather than wait for foreplay to warm you up this winter, set the stage by keeping your lover warm from the get-go. A velvety bathrobe is “easy to put on, to take off and, umm…yeah, easy access,” said Silver. Talk about a triple win!

A sexy mix CD or playlist

In a study conducted by Spotify involving thousands of adults—about half women, half men—music was 40 percent more sexually enticing than touch. Wow, right? Indeed, tunes turn us on. Create a compilation for your partner, adding a handmade CD cover or song list.

Fantasies, come true

Whether you’re in a new relationship or have been with your partner for decades, acting on your fantasies can increase fun and connectedness. Joe’s favorite gift? A 50th birthday threesome, “because f*ck midlife crises!” Kass’s husband surprised her with a new sex position she’d been dying to try. If you’re not sure what your partner desires, learn how to start the conversation in my chat with tantra educators Dawn Beck and Gerard Gatz.

More ideas:

  • Write an erotic letter or poem.
  • Read erotica out loud together.
  • Take a sudsy bath together, by candlelight.
  • Make sexy cookies!

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For more ideas, read #GirlBoner Gifts: Super Sexy Stocking Stuffers.

For even MORE, listen to the latest on Girl Boner® Radio: Kinky Compassion + Sexy Holiday Gifts.

A sweet deal!

Thanks to Girl Boner®’s resident sex-pert, Dr. Megan Fleming, Trystology—makers of fabulous love and passion products—is offering you all a discount! Through the holidays, shop at, entering GIRLBONER as the promo code to receive 15% off your purchase.

What’s the sexiest gift you’ve ever given or received? Which of these ideas appeals most to you? I love hearing your thoughts! ♥

#GirlBoner Gifts: Super Sexy Stocking Stuffers

“A wise lover values not so much the gift of the lover as the love of the giver.”  —Thomas á Kempis

Have you ever received a gift so wonderfully thoughtful you about melted like Frosty in a heatwave? *sigh* I sure have. It’s not the price or magnitude of gifts that counts, but the spirit in which they’re given and the thoughtfulness the giver invests. I can’t think of many gifts more loving than those that enhance intimacy, relaxation and erotic pleasure. Bestowing such gifts on ourselves can add sparkle to our own holidays. Consider them Girl Boners to your Girl Boner. 😉

When choosing a sensual gift for another, make sure you consider their wants and needs, versus purely your own. (Giving lingerie to a woman who’s not comfortable wearing it is about as thoughtful as giving a woman who practically lives in lacy negligees frumpy flannels.) If you’re unsure whether a sexy gift is within your partner’s comfort or pretty-please zone, ask! You may be surprised by the response. And besides, sensual talk is sexy! The convo. itself may become a gift, IYKWIM.

Sexy stocking stuffers

 Another fabulous option? Fill a stocking with sexy gifts for you and your love to share. Isn’t that what the holidays are really about? Whether shared or savored on your own, the following gifts may be just what you need to set the festive flames  a-roaring! Peruse the  recommendations from me and a few of favorite sex-positive peeps, then let us know in the comments which ones most entice you! Have ideas of your own to add? We’d love to hear those, too.

1. Aloe Cadabra Gift Set

Lubricants are one of the best ways to make sex more savory and orgasmic—and Aloe Cadabra lubricants are my FAVE! They have a luxurious non-sticky consistency, taste and smell delectable and since they’re aloe-based, they promote supple skin. Gift set: $29.95 Individual: $9.95 via

Aloe Cadabra Valentine's gift box

2. Sensual Massage Oil

Little says I love and lust for you as supremely as a sensual massage. This organic oil by the Body Shop is moisturizing, non-greasy and scented with Tahitian vanilla and other ingredients said to provide aphrodisiac benefits. $18.00 retail, $14.00 via

sensual oil

3. Love Coupons

Hoping for a 2014 filled with sensual play and romance? Love coupons provide a primo way to share your fantasies and celebrate your partner’s, setting the stage for a sultry year. LoveCoup allows you to create customized vouchers using fun graphics, choosing everything from gender and face shape to hair color, and text of your choosing. $24.95 via

Love coupon 3

4. Kama Sutra Getaway Kit

This romantic getaway kit can help ensure sensual sizzle whether you travel or celebrate holidays stay-cation style at home. The convenient travel case comes with sample-size lubricant and body oil, sweet honeysuckle honey dust, a feather applicator, French Vanilla Crème Body Soufflé cream and a scented romance candle. $34.99 via

Getaway Kit

5. Candy Cane Undies 

What better way to show your man how sweet his penis is than with candy casing? Or by inviting him to enjoy all your Girl Boner has to offer with , “If you lick my candy cane, I’ll stuff your stocking” panties? If you and your guy find thongs as uncomfy as I do, fear not. These won’t be worn long! Or maybe they’ll just make you both laugh—also groovy. His: $11.24 via Amazon  Hers: $13.99 via Cafe Press

candy cane underwear his and hers

6. Loving and Lasting: How to Stay Tuned In and Turned On in Your Marriage

For you married pairs, this book edited by the phenomenal Chief Passion Curator of Bring Back Desire and host of the Loving and Lasting Radio Show Ande Lyons is a must have! It’s brimming with useful insight from 20 of her favorite romance experts on ways to reignite lost passion, better communicate with your spouse and have a heck of a lot of fun in the process. Pop it in your honey’s virtual stocking! $2.99 via Amazon.


7. Vanilla Bondage Kit

This sexy suggestion comes from my friend and fellow blogger, Kitt Crescendo.”I love this product because it’s great for a little sensation play without being too scary or intimidating!” she said.”It can be used to play ‘Guess That Food’ (a la 9 1/2 weeks) or to explore your partner’s body without worrying about what they might be thinking.”  Kitt said she’d trace chocolate words on her lover’s body then make him decode the lick-able message. (YUM!) The silky, cream-colored restraints come neatly stored in a sweet container. $15.00 via Pure Romance

vanilla bondage

8. LELO Ida Vibrator

Ande Lyons, Passion Curator at Bring Back Desire, calls this vibrator for couples absolutely delicious. “The demonstration video will have your #GirlBoner jumping for joy!” she said. Worn in your vagina during sensual play, this toy stimulates your G-spot and clitoris while bringing a stimulating buzz to your man’s penis. (*August melts.*) $199 via My Secret Luxury


9. F*ck Me Perfume Potion

This come-hither concoction was formulated by Yolanda Shoshana, a Clairvoyant Seduction Alchemist with Girl Boner gusto to boot! “I love this perfume potion because it oozes seduction and sex,” she said. “It is deep, exotic and downright erotic.” Best of all, its mysterious notes are designed to inspire self love, confidence and passion. LOVE. $38.00 via Courtesan Charm


10. Bombshell Orgasm Balm 

Because all of our lips need TLC! This yummy balm contains all-natural ingredients geared toward enhancing arousal and orgasm. Apply a tiny amount to your clitoris and labia before foreplay for intensified pleasure. Perfect for spontaneous sexy play on-the-go, you won’t want to leave home without it! $9.99 via

Orgasm balm

Simple and DIY Ideas:

  • A hand-written, sensual love letter
  • Homemade heart-cookies with sexy messages
  • A framed sensual quote or photo
  • Bubble bath with sexy instructions involving you!
  • Sexy decorated undies!
  • A blindfold (The real gift will be what you do with/to once it’s on!)
  • Sexy shoes or panty hoes
  • Tingling lip gloss 
  • A water-proof notepad for writing saucy notes to your partner mid-naked steam! 
  • Naughty (meaning oh-so-nice!) chocolates

I’d love to hear your thoughts! Which items entice you? What goodies would you add to the list? Remember, you can also connect with me and the #Girl Boner community via Facebook and Twitter! ♥