#GirlBoner Radio on iTunes! + 5 Ways to Support Sex Positivity

“Growing up, I decided, a long time ago, I wouldn’t accept any manmade differences between human beings, differences made at somebody else’s insistence or someone else’s whim or convenience.” — Maya Angelou

If as a kid growing up in Minnesota someone would’ve told me that I’d one day dedicate much of my life and energy to sex positivity, I probably would’ve laughed—loudly. I also would’ve wondered what the heck that even means. Now that I’m done so, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. That isn’t to say it’s an easy path.

Last week, after controversy my production team handled with marked grace passed, Girl Boner Radio was approved for distribution on iTunes! Thank flippin’ goodness. 🙂 Since then, I’ve been feeling much the way I did upon my debut novel release last year—like a nervous new mama who wants nothing more than to nurture and protect her infant, hoping with all of her heart that the world will embrace her and her dreams. While those dreams are ever-evolving, one biggie is that Girl Boner—the brand, the radio show, the eventual book, etc.—will contribute to sex positivity in broad-scale, impactful ways.

What IS sex positivity?

Simply put, sex positivity is the idea that all sex, as long as it is healthy and consensual, is positive. It means recognizing and embracing peoples’ differences regarding sexual preferences, including style and orientation (including the 1% of the population who are asexual), and not judging others based on their sexual lifestyle choices. In my opinion, it also means embracing our bodies and sexuality as natural and wondrous, while doing what we can to minimize negative stereotypes and influences, such as the dieting and pornography industries, that damage our body image, sexual self-esteem and sense of self worth.

While sex positivity may seem like a no-brainer to many of you, it’s remarkable how deeply and vastly our culture and countless people in it promote the opposite.

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Why is it important?

So. Many. Reasons! A sex-positive lifestyle promotes positive physical and emotional wellbeing, guards against depression, stress and anxiety and promotes healthy body image and self-esteem. It also helps ensure strong, lasting intimate relationships, in and outside of the bedroom. On a larger scale, sex positivity makes the world a more loving, accepting and gratifying place.

5 Ways to Support Sex Positivity

If you believe that healthy, consensual sex and sexuality as a whole are worth embracing, you’re already contributing to the movement in important ways. To take your efforts further, consider the following steps.

1. Listen to and review sex-positive radio shows and podcasts. Reviews and ratings are hugely important for radio shows and podcasts. On iTunes, high numbers and ratings directly lead to increased search engine rank and online promotion. In the case of Girl Boner, positive reviews and ratings will also lead to greater exposure and airtime when contract renews in three months. (In other words, if you listen and like what you hear, honest rating and reviews will be much appreciated!)

2. Purchase and review fiction and nonfiction books that promote healthy messages about sexuality. I read Kitt Crescendo’s novelette, Three For All, recently, and raced off to review it pronto. She depicts sexuality in such a relatable, uplifting way—and wow, is it saucy! Similar to radio shows and podcasts, positive reviews help ensure greater success and sales for the author, allowing them to continue their fine work.

3. Share sex-positive programs and products throughout social media. Social media provides phenomenal ways to interact with sex-positive folks and share and gain access to empowering material. If you come upon an awesome sex-positive book, article, radio show or movie, let people know! Groovy hashtags include #sexpositive, #sexuality, #BringBackDesire and, of course, #GirlBoner. 😉

4. Speak out against sex-negativity. Inspired by Miss Representation, a FABULOUS organization, I spent time during the recent Super Bowl tweeting commercials that promote sexist ideals and interacting with others doing the same. Anytime you view sexist or otherwise sexually demeaning media, tweet about it using their hashtag, #NotBuyingIt. If you notice a friend or loved one speaking negatively about her body or telling sexist jokes, call them out. In many cases, people don’t even realize the unintentional harm they’re causing until someone points it out.

5. Cultivate sex positivity in your life. Cultivating positive attitudes and behaviors regarding sex in your own life is arguably the most powerful way to make changes in a culture that often deems sexuality taboo. Whatever negative attitudes or harmful barriers you have, make shifting them toward the positive a priority. Sex positivity doesn’t mean running out to have as much sex as possible or becoming extremely vocal about your beliefs, though both can fit within a sex-positive lifestyle. It doesn’t also doesn’t mean venturing into sexual territory that makes you uncomfortable. On the contrary, it means embracing your sexuality however you feel most healthy and fulfilled.

To listen to Girl Boner Radio on iTunes, visit this link:

Girl Boners #GirlBoner

Other sex-positive programs worth supporting:

The Loving & Lasting Radio Show with Ande Lyons Get “tuned in and turned on!” with Ande Lyons.

Coming Out Kinky, A Grown Up Story: A sex-positive play by Jean Franzblau

Sex Talk From Behind Our White Picket Fence: Honest, Sex-Positive Information for Couples

In the Bedroom with Laura Berman on the Oprah Winfrey Network

How do you feel about sex positivity? If you’ve listened to Girl Boner or checked out the above links, what did you think? Any related links to share? What are your sex-positive goals or dreams? Any questions you’d like answered on Girl Boner Radio? I LOVE hearing your thoughts.

Thanks so much for the ongoing support! 

Announcing: The Beauty of a Woman BlogFest III!

“After nourishment, shelter and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world.”  — Philip Pullman

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Like many writers, the preciousness of words and story led me to become one. They were my escape from difficult times in my youth and helped pave the way to my recovery from anorexia. As many of you know, Sam Levinson’s poem, The Beauty of a Woman, holds a special place in my heart for that reason. It found me at the seemingly precise right time, becoming somewhat of a mantra when my battle with ED (my eating disorder) seemed futile.

When I shared a story of my personal turning point with ED two years ago, I was so blown away by readers’ support, I decided to launch a celebratory fest that had ended up reaching thousands. Each one of you who’s participated is a tremendous gift! Not just to me, but to countless readers. We never know who our stories might reach, becoming the friend/inspiration/sunshine/cheerleader another so desperately needs.

Without further ado, I’m beyond thrilled to announce the third annual Beauty of a Woman BlogFest. Woo hoo!!! I hope you’ll consider joining us. 🙂

An exciting change!

Because we’ve had such awesome participation in the past, the fest will take place over a full week, participants’ posts appearing on my blog on two separate days. As a blogger, you can opt to participate in the original Beauty of a Woman BlogFest or the Beauty of a Woman, Girl Boner Edition. What’s the difference? While the original fest will address beauty in general, the Girl Boner segment will address beauty and sexuality, however you so choose.

Of course, everyone will be welcome to read and celebrate both!

How to participate as a writer:

1. Go to the signup page (using the link below or the tab above) and post a comment to reserve your spot, letting me know if you’d like to join the original or Girl Boner edition.

2. You’ll then write a post related to the fest theme to publish on your blog the day before the fest you’ve selected or by 7am PST the day of. Include the appropriate fest logo and a link to my blog (https://augustmclaughlin.wordpress.com) in your post, inviting readers to check out the fest for fun, inspiration and chances to win groovy prizes!

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3. This year, you must email me a link to your post the day before the fest day—Sunday, February 23rd for Girl Boner posts (for the fest on the 24th) and Wednesday, February 26th for original theme posts (for the fest on the 27th). If you schedule your post to appear by 7am PST on fest-day, please still email me the link in advance! Write BOAW in the subject line so I’ll be sure to spot it.

4. Throughout fest week, visit my blog to read and share others’ posts and potentially win prizes! Readers and writers who participate will have chances to win gift cards (up to $50 in value) and more. Seriously, it’s a lot of fun!

A special prize: To celebrate our very first Girl Boner BOAW edition, I’ll choose two posts from that fest to read on Girl Boner Radio on February 24th! 

If you have any questions, please post it below or send me a Tweet (@AugstMcLaughlin), email or Facebook message. To read Levinson’s poem, check out BOAW writing prompts, sign up and nab the logo, visit the BOAW III Registration page. I can’t wait to celebrate beauty with you! Remember, this fest is open to ALL—women and men of all ages. Feel free to invite your pals!

Lots and lots of love,

August ♥

Any thoughts or questions about the fest? Post them below! I love hearing from you.