What New Year’s Resolution Would You Set for Your Significant Other?

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.”  — Edith Lovejoy Pierce

I don’t often set New Year’s resolutions, but like many folks, I spend time around the holidays contemplating my previous year and what I hope the next will hold. This morning, I found myself contemplating other people’s goals—more specifically, resolutions I wish they would set.

I wish my friend Tracy would resolve to stop bashing her body shape and size and recognize the beauty she truly is. I wish the guy at my local gas station would stop uttering racist remarks. I wish every woman in the world would embrace her sexuality. I wish meat eaters would reduce their intake so that all cows could be raised free-roaming and grass-eating. I wish  Oprah would aspire to produce a Girl Boner TV show.

I wish, I wish, I wish…

Dreams come true… Is there an app for that?

Dreams, come true… There must be an app for that! #FairySelfie

Midway through my wish-fest daydream, my husband entered the room. We had the following conversation:

Me: What resolution do you wish I’d set this year?

Husband: To treat me as your lord and master. *snickers*

Me: Um… Take two.

Husband: Okay. How about to clean the counter? I just put my iPad down in a puddle of water.

Me: That puddle is there because I cleaned the counter! *smiles, batting eyes* Try again.

Husband: Okay, here’s a real one. Take a break from work every hour–ten minutes to walk away and rest your eyes.

Me: What if I’m in the middle of writing something really awesome???

Husband: Then finish and take a break when you’re done.

Don’t you just hate it when someone else is right? 😉 What my ever sharp and witty husband was getting at was the importance of self-care and rest. The latter, he well knows, isn’t my strong suit. I probably won’t be pausing hourly, but I plan to prioritize rest and play.

It isn’t easy to slow down or hit the pause button when our plates are full, particularly when we’re passionate about the contents. But as I continually learn, doing so strengthens us, our work and our lives in multiple important ways. The more we nurture ourselves, the more likely we are to bring our own aspirations into fruition. Besides, imagine all the fun and restful ways we can avoid doing housework!


 Your turn! What resolution would you set for a loved one? What are you striving toward?  

Wishing you a beautiful kickoff to 2014.