Come visit me at Making Love Sustainable!

Hi beautiful peeps!

Just a quick note today to let you know that I’ve been hanging out over at Making Love Sustainable—the blog of Wendy Strgar, owner and creator of Good Clean Love. Girl Boner Radio listeners may recognize Wendy from her fabulous intimacy tips over the past few weeks, and our chat last month.

Wendy asked me terrific questions about my work and more. Here’s a sneak peek at the post:

August McLaughlin_Good Clean Love

To read the full interview, visit this link:

Q&A With August McLaughlin, Girl Boner Radio

Hope you’ll stop by and share your thoughts!

In case you missed it, Wendy also kindly answered my questions for you all in this post: Are Your Intimacy Products Safe? Natural Lubes and Loveology with Wendy Strgar. You can also connect with Wendy and Good Clean Love on  Twitter (@GoodCleanLove) and Facebook. Thanks for the support!

Wishing you a beautiful weekend. ♥


Keeping On Shining: A #SparkleFriday Wrap-Up

You know what’s fun? Joining forces with a bunch of awesome people to show others what kindness can do.

sparkle everyone

I can’t thank everyone who participated in #SparkleFriday enough. Your efforts to brighten Black Friday and warm my family’s new home were heartfelt, thought-provoking and impactful.

As a group, you brought food and clothing to homeless people, purchased toys for children who wouldn’t otherwise receive gifts this holiday season, cared for animals in need, gave anonymous gifts and encouraging notes to strangers, babysat for a couple so they could enjoy a well-deserved date night, reconnected with loved ones, donated to worthy charities, cleaned up after others’ animals, created art to deliver to a nursing home, took on added housework so loved ones could sleep in, prioritized self-care and more. More than once, I was touched to tears. I hope you gained at least as much joy and warmth as you gave!

And now, to announce our prize winners! The #SparkleFriday gift packs from Good Clean Love go to…


Gayle Carline and Elizabeth Ann Mitchell! For inspiring the most sparkle throughout social media with your posts and for your extreme thoughtfulness, THANK YOU!

Elizabeth #SparkleFriday

Gayle sparkled all over the place! And shared beautiful insight on her blog (post link below).

Gayle sparkled all over the place! And shared beautiful insight on her blog (post link below).

Special thanks to Good Clean Love for donating these wonderful prizes! 

Special thanks to Good Clean Love for donating these wonderful prizes!

To learn more about participants’ experiences, check out these fabulous blog posts:

I’m all a-sparkle by Gayle Carline

Shimmer & Shine! It’s #SparkleFriday… by Kitt Crescendo

#SparkleFriday by Raani York

#SparkleFriday, with the Kids at a Toy Store by Shan Janiah

To check out people’s posts on the event page, visit this link on Facebook or search for the hashtag #SparkleFriday.

Stay tuned later this week to learn more about my own surprising #SparkleFriday experience, and a special project it inspired. So excited! Until then, wishing you loads of happiness. ♥

“No one has ever become poor by giving.” – Anne Frank

Are Your Intimacy Products Safe? Natural Lubes and Loveology with @WendyStrgar

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned about sexual wellness is the importance of self-care. Without it, we can’t cultivate strong relationships with ourselves or others or live gratifying, impactful lives. Part of that care is valuing our bodies and sexuality enough to treat them well, and avoiding toxins of all types—from negatively influential people to products containing risky ingredients.

Research published by the World Health Organization in 2012 linked ingredients common in commercial lubricants with an increased risk for infections, including STDs and bacterial vaginosis, the most common yet highly under-diagnosed vaginal condition that causes inflammation, itching and other symptoms due to bacterial imbalances. It can also appear with no overt symptoms, raising the risk for complications. As someone prone to UTIs, I’ve been blown away by the difference using high-quality, organic products makes; I haven’t had a single bladder infection since swapping “regular” lube for organic. Seriously, that’s life-changing.

Last week I had the pleasure of interviewing Wendy Strgar, owner of Good Clean Love, makers of high-quality intimacy products—including organic, all-natural lubricants, body oils and body candles—I absolutely ADORE. Wendy is also a sought after intimacy and relationships expert who speaks candidly about her long-lasting, happy, highly sexually gratifying marriage. Her mission to bring love back into sex in a world fearful of intimacy is as admirable as her product line. You’re going to love what Wendy has to say!  To listen, visit this link on iTunes, then pop back for our follow-up chat below:

Girl Boner Radio: Natural Lubes and Loveology

Wendy Strgar_Good Clean Love

August: In addition to prioritizing a healthy, happy sex life, what’s one major way you’ve cultivated a lasting, thriving marriage?

Wendy: A passionate sex life is the product of all the other challenging emotional work that it takes to sustain intimacy with your partner—so I spend time every day asking questions and learning how to listen better. Listening to someone, even if you feel like you have heard it a hundred times before actually feels like love to the person being heard. I also prioritize showing up for my husband, whether that is making dinner early or helping him find a clean t-shirt. Showing up means different things to different people, but in the end it feels the same for everyone. You feel like you have someone at your back, willing to help you.

August: I loved what you shared about the myth that love inevitably dwindles over time. What common myth about lasting partnerships do you feel is particularly harmful?

Wendy: I think because so many people are not well-equipped with the skills required to love over time we have come to collectively believe that long term marriage is a dead-end and that it is impossible or at least nowadays unnatural that you could have a great and evolving sexual experience with a long term partner. I think this is very harmful, because it lets people off the hook for the hard work we all need to do to continuously be curious and open to who we are as sexual beings. No one can make us feel sexy if we ourselves are not committed to relating with and understanding our erotic selves and mysterious fantasies that go with it. It is easy and now socially acceptable to believe that sex withers with familiarity. My experience has been the opposite.

August: You shared wonderful thoughts on people’s fear of trusting love. What’s one step a person can take to begin moving past that fear?

Wendy: When it comes to trusting in the belief that you are lovable and can be loving, I am convinced that this process is an internal waking up process which begins with the seed of self love in all of us. So many of us are the walking wounded, spending 80% or more of our thought process on our defects, and worse still most peoples thoughts are 95% the same day after day. Paying attention to our thinking and giving yourself the benefit of the doubt, becoming your own friend is the first critical step to being able to witness and receive love from others. We all want to be loved and we all deserve it. Learning that is a practice that pays off in a million ways.

August: If you could have dinner with any celebrity, who would you choose? What would you eat?

Wendy: I have always had a crush on Bono from U2 and some of his music about love (miracle drug) often spontaneously starts playing in my head. I also have always admired Meryl Streep and the multifaceted challenging stories she is willing to portray. I would love to have a meal with either of them—maybe a harvest table of beautifully prepared vegetable dishes (think kale, mushrooms, sweet potatoes, arugula, brussels sprouts and yellow peppers), a warm crusty loaf of bread and a soft French cheese.


Okay, I want to eat all of that. Isn’t Wendy fabulous? To learn more about making love last, visit her blog, Making Love Sustainable, and follow her (@wendystrgar) and Good Clean Love (@GoodCleanLove) on Twitter.

A SPECIAL GIFT! To save 10% on a full order of all-natural, organic intimacy products—before tax, visit and enter the coupon code GIRLBONER10 through Friday, 11/28. (How sweet is that?!?)

What intimacy products do you use? If you’re in a romantic partnership, how do you ensure it’ll last? Do you fear love, or go after it with gusto? Any thoughts on our interview? We’d love to hear from you! ♥