#GirlBoner Radio’s 25th Episode: A Sex-pert Celebration!

 “The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.” — Oprah Winfrey

So true, right? It can be easy to get caught up in what we haven’t done or obtained, particularly when we’re going after our dreams. While I’m a big believer in forging ahead and envisioning, I also think it’s crucial that we celebrate steps forward. Toward that end, I decided to commemorate my 25th episode of Girl Boner Radio by sharing thoughts from some of my favorite sex-pert guests and interviewing the woman who helped start it all, Dr. Lisa Masterson. In case you can’t tell from our chic party hats we had a blast. 😉

Here’s what you can expect:

Jean Franzblau, writer and star of Coming Out Kinky, answered a question about violent sexual fantasies. Counselor and activist Gabe Deem took on two questions on porn addiction. Gia Nova, an esteemed burlesque dancer I interviewed for an upcoming show, shared tips for achieving adult star sexiness at home and how to best take nude photos for a partner. Then Dr. Lisa joined me for a truly fun and inspiring chat about her life, career, podcast and listeners’ questions on sex during your period and more. I hope you’ll check it out!

To listen to or download the show, visit this link on iTunes:

A Sex-pert Celebration with Dr. Lisa Masterson

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While you’re on iTunes, I hope you’ll also check out Health in Heels with Dr. Lisa. It’s fabulous! You can also connect with Dr. Lisa on Twitter: @DrLisaM.

What did you think of the show? Any questions for my next sex-pert special? How do you celebrate milestones? I love hearing from you! And hope you’re having a BRILLIANT summer. ♥

 

#GirlBoner Radio and the Power of Intent

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”  — Wayne W. Dyer

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Wow. I debuted my radio show! It was a wonderfully surreal experience, the kind that feels natural and dream-like at the same time. I hope you’ll all check it out and consider subscribing via iTunes once it’s available—within the next few days. In the meantime, you’re welcome to listen to the premiere episode here: Girl Boner Radio Ep. 1: Girl Boner Beginnings. I’d love to hear what you think!

The whole experience has had me pondering the power of intention. Back in October, a publicist I was considering working with asked about my specific goals for Girl Boner. (“Besides change the world?” I asked. Yes…) As a pantser in life and writing, I tend not to make lists—but she’d asked, so I jotted down some items that had been on my mind. I told her I wished to appear on 3 to 5 major radio shows within the coming year. I also jotted down the names of experts and celebrities I hoped to connect with regarding Girl Boner. One of those names was Dr. Lisa Masterson—aka, Dr. Lisa—who I’d tried contacting through The Doctors TV show, without luck.

Within two weeks of making that list, I was contacted for 3 awesome radio show appearances. Woah, right? But it gets better.

Around the same time, I was assigned an article on walking shoes—not the most thrilling topic, but I was grateful for the opportunity. I posted an interview query online, and who replied? None other than Dr. Lisa. The physician’s shoe line TheraFit seemed perfect for my article, so we arranged an interview.

As much as I would’ve loved to have blabbed to Dr. Lisa about Girl Boner then, I aimed for tact and professionalism. I figured communicating well and writing a solid article would bode better, and hoped more would evolve at some point. In very little time, it did.

After the article appeared, Dr. Lisa invited me to appear on her radio and podcast series, Health in Heels. Not only did I have a BLAST chatting with the illustrious doctor at her affiliate recording studio, but the following day her production team offered me my own show. That makes my own show the fifth of the five I’d aspired for.

Getting cozy with the mic. I could get used to this!

Getting cozy with the mic. I could get used to this!

Remarkable things happen when we set our sights on that which we feel passionate about. All it takes, I’ve learned, is a bit of openness, self-honesty and dreaming with intent.

I’m sure you all have related stories , which I’d love to hear! As for me, I could use a sudsy bubble bath and a hot fudge sundae, preferably in tandem… 🙂 Wishing you all endless dreams come true. Thanks so much for sharing in my journey! 

So tell me! When has sharing your dreams out loud drew them into fruition? What happy surprises have derived from your willingness to not only work hard, but dream and stay open to possibilities? I seriously love hearing from you.

Gain #GirlBoner Gusto: 20 Ways to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

“In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” – Deepak Chopra

Letting go. The simple word pairing describes one of the most powerful concepts we can embrace. Letting go of a romance-gone-wrong makes way for peacefulness and, if and when we desire it, new love. Releasing anger and resentment allows us to forgive those who’ve caused wounds, preventing clouds of bitterness from tinkering with life’s sunshine and replacing “Why me?” with gratitude-induced rainbows. Today I want to challenge you to loosen your hold on barriers that inhibit your Girl Boner gusto, which is a term I use to describe loving and respecting your body and sexuality with curiosity, intent and glee. (Can I get a WOO HOO?)

Last week I had the honor of discussing Girl Boner with Dr. Lisa Masterson on her fabulous radio show, Health in Heels with Dr. Lisa. The practicing OB/GYN, mother, philanthropist, author and former cohost of the Emmy award-winning TV show, The Doctors is equally vivacious and sharp, and we had a BLAST exploring body image, sexuality and the unbreakable link between. (To listen to our full interview, scroll down to the link in the last paragraph.)

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Chatting about sexuality and body image with the fabulous Dr. Lisa!

After I explained the inspiration behind Girl Boner, here’s what Dr. Lisa had to say:

“We really are sort of backwards about sexuality, about pleasure, about physicality… What I’ve found in my practice is that girls that felt really comfortable with their bodies had a real sense of self and a real pride in themselves and their bodies—those were the ones least likely to get pregnant, to develop STDs, because they care about their bodies and themselves.”

She is so right! When we embrace our bodies as adults, we’re also more likely to have fulfilling relationships, feel and appear more attractive, practice self-care—which leads to fewer instances of chronic disease, stress and depression—and have more energy to invest in positive ventures. I also loved what Dr. Lisa had to say about swimming in the nude:

“The first time I went skinny-dipping with my girlfriends was last year in Fiji… It’s a freeing thing because it’s sort of getting over yourself, feeling comfortable with yourself. I can’t stress enough how important that is to feel good about [your] body.”

As I explained on her show, getting to that place of embracement can seem grueling, considering the multitudinous forces against us. On the bright side, however, such work is not only doable, but more empowering than most folks realize. It all starts with baby steps, in my opinion—taking even one bold step into a zone in which you would like to feel more comfortable. Not sure where to start? Consider the following suggestions.

20 Ways to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
& Into Girl Boner Embracement ♥
If you’re up for the challenge and eager for the scrumptious rewards of embracing your sexy self, choose one or several of the following suggestions to commit to in the coming days or weeks. Or let your mind wander and conjure your own. If your heart races slightly and your lips curve upward as you consider a practice you haven’t tried, it’s likely a great pick!

1. Spend more time naked or in your skivvies. (Sleeping, reading, cooking, cleaning…)
2. Say “I love my body” aloud at least once daily—sarcasm not allowed!
3. When you shower, explore your vagina with your fingers, doing your best to name each part.
4. Use a mirror or camera phone to observe your sexual anatomy.
5. Look at your full body naked in the mirror daily, thinking loving thoughts (and telling others to hush up!)
6. Buy yourself underwear or other apparel you feel sexy in!
7 . Read or write erotica.
8. Watch an erotic film.
9. Buy yourself a new, or your first, sex toy—and try it out!
10. If you’re fixated on weight and size, toss your scale in the trash and remove size tags from your clothes.
11. Stop the diet you know in your gut isn’t healthy and focus on enjoying a variety of (mostly whole) foods mindfully—with awareness and appreciation.
12. Take a pole dancing class!
13. Go out for a night on the town with your girlfriends, dressing however you feel happy, comfortable and sexy.
14. Write a love letter to your body, paying mind to its sexual capabilities and parts.
15. Make love by candlelight.
16. Masturbate by candlelight.
17. Share a sexual fantasy with your partner. If you’re both game, act on it!
18. Keep a sensuality journal, tracking sights, sounds, smells, tastes and happenings that tickle your senses—and, of course, those that tickle your Girl Boner!
19. Prioritize and initiate sex more often.
20. Remind yourself daily that your sexuality is not dirty, but beautiful, natural and worth embracing.

Regardless of how you go about gaining and maintaining Girl Boner gusto, what matters most is that you do. If we don’t prioritize sexual and body embracement, there’s a good chance they’ll fall to the wayside, ridding us of countless benefits—and that’s pretty tragic, in my opinion. You all deserve to live full, happy lives! Recognizing that our sexuality is a crucial part of that opens the door to wondrousness.

During our interview, when Dr. Lisa described skinny-dipping with girlfriends as a liberating way you to “get over yourself,” I was totally sold! (Telling her I’m “not much of a swimmer” was a bit like describing the North Poll as somewhat chilly, but I adore the concept. LOL)  Merely getting our feet wet, literally and figuratively, can be all it takes to set sexy self-embracement in motion.

What steps are you willing to take to better embrace your body and sensuality? Remember, there’s no shame or judgment here—only support! Which may include a few giddy, cheer-you-on squeals. 😉 I love hearing from you! If you decide to write that love letter to your body and would like to share it, post it on the Girl Boner Facebook page or email it to me for possible (anonymous, optionally) inclusion in an upcoming post. ♥

To listen to or download my chat with Dr. Lisa for FREE, visit Health in Heels on iTunes, Episode 11/14If you like what you hear, I hope you’ll consider posting a review of Dr. Lisa’s program! She deserves all the praise she can get. For a chance to have your sex or health-related questions answered on the air, tweet them to Dr. Lisa at @drLisaM using the hashtag #AskDrLisa.