#GirlBoner Radio’s 25th Episode: A Sex-pert Celebration!

 “The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.” — Oprah Winfrey

So true, right? It can be easy to get caught up in what we haven’t done or obtained, particularly when we’re going after our dreams. While I’m a big believer in forging ahead and envisioning, I also think it’s crucial that we celebrate steps forward. Toward that end, I decided to commemorate my 25th episode of Girl Boner Radio by sharing thoughts from some of my favorite sex-pert guests and interviewing the woman who helped start it all, Dr. Lisa Masterson. In case you can’t tell from our chic party hats we had a blast. 😉

Here’s what you can expect:

Jean Franzblau, writer and star of Coming Out Kinky, answered a question about violent sexual fantasies. Counselor and activist Gabe Deem took on two questions on porn addiction. Gia Nova, an esteemed burlesque dancer I interviewed for an upcoming show, shared tips for achieving adult star sexiness at home and how to best take nude photos for a partner. Then Dr. Lisa joined me for a truly fun and inspiring chat about her life, career, podcast and listeners’ questions on sex during your period and more. I hope you’ll check it out!

To listen to or download the show, visit this link on iTunes:

A Sex-pert Celebration with Dr. Lisa Masterson

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While you’re on iTunes, I hope you’ll also check out Health in Heels with Dr. Lisa. It’s fabulous! You can also connect with Dr. Lisa on Twitter: @DrLisaM.

What did you think of the show? Any questions for my next sex-pert special? How do you celebrate milestones? I love hearing from you! And hope you’re having a BRILLIANT summer. ♥

 

#GirlBoner Radio Sneak Peek! And a Chance to Make a Cameo Appearance

Wowzers! Girl Boner Radio officially kicks off next Monday, January 13th! I wish I could accurately express my excitement. Let’s just say my soul has a Girl Boner of the insatiable variety. 😉

August McLaughlin Girl Boner Radio

Actually, both! I was happy to see Dr. Lisa when I appeared on her show in November, but my latest GB excitement, as many of you know, is my podcast series/radio show that derived from that experience.

While I’m fortunate to have a super groovy production team, the show’s content is largely up to me. Guess what that means? It’s also up to you.

This show wouldn’t have come about without the support and loyalty of you fabulous readers, and I’d LOVE to involve you in the program as much as possible. For starters, here’s how you can make a cameo appearance in my very first episode!

Make a Cameo Apperance on Girl Boner Radio’s Premiere Episode!

Record a short audio clip (1 minute or less) of you answering one of these questions:

What is a Girl Boner?

What do you remember about your earliest sex education?

Be as serious or goofy as you wish! If chosen to air, your identity won’t be revealed unless you somehow work your name into the clip. Email me the clip (august at augustmclaughlin dot com) preferably as an Mp3, by this Friday, January 10th with Girl Boner in the subject line so I don’t miss it. I’ll consider clips as they appear until I have enough, so the sooner you record and send, the better!

Smart phones make recording audio easy, but feel free to use a fancier method if you have the chops! The clips need not be perfect, but your words should be clear. If you’d rather type and email or tweet me your answers (@AugstMcLaughlin), feel free. I may read a few responses on the air as well. Keep in mind that by submitting a clip, you’re agreeing to allow its on-air use.

Where can you listen?

The best way to hear the show will be via iTunes, where you’ll be able to download and subscribe to the podcasts for free. I’ll share links here and throughout social media as I have them starting next week. Huge thanks to all of you who’ve inquired! I so appreciate your interest and support. 

Girl Boner Radio with August McLaughlin

Think you’ll participate by submitting a clip? What other topics would you like to see featured on Girl Boner Radio? As always, I welcome your thoughts. ♥

Dreaming Like Nobody’s Judging: 10 Facts About Chasing Our Dreams

Dance like nobody’s watching. I’m not sure who said this originally, but I love the message: Let go. Act crazy if you want to! Meanwhile, stop caring what other people think. Applied to our dreams and passions, the notion is pure magic. How about dreaming like nobody’s judging?

This week a dream I scarcely realized I had came into fruition, making me more grateful than ever for dreaming out loud. After appearing on Dr. Lisa Masterson’s radio show, Health in Heals, her reps phoned me, asking if I’d like to host a show of my own. Girl Boner Radio will kick off January 6th! I’m not sure I could be more excited. When I arrived at the recording studio for my first production meeting on Monday, I nearly cried. The place was decked out in sparkly decor as though my giddiness had materialized, and a grateful feeling of “You’re on the right track. Keep going,” struck me. The message on the wall, “…planet Earth is listening,” seemed to affirm it. When we share dreams, people listen. We never know where that may lead.

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I thought back to just over a year ago when I launched my Girl Boner blog series. I wasn’t sure what would happen once I hit publish, but I knew something would. Something had to because my heart, brain and instincts were screaming at me to speak up, and when we act on our dreams, groovy things happen. If I’d kept my Girl Boner dreams bottled up (pun scrumptiousness!), they’d have stayed dormant, likely causing stress and regret. More importantly, if all of you fabulous readers hadn’t been receptive to my efforts, I’d likely have no radio show or other fun prospects to speak of. Thank you with all of my GB-loving heart. ♥

Since I’ve been swimming around in dream-think lately, a virtual gush-pile of WHOOPEE!, I thought I’d share facts I think we can all stand to be reminded of. After you take a glimpse, I hope you’ll share your own thoughts on dreams.

10 Facts About Dreams

1. They’re practical. For many folks, ‘dreamer’ conjures up images of whimsical fairy tales and spacey hippies with their eyes fixed toward the clouds while the “real world” tromps on. In reality, most dreams are goals that set our hearts aglow, make us stronger contributing members of society when we pursue them and make practical sense if we stop and think about it. (The question should always be, “Why not?”)

2. They come true if we let them. And by let them, I mean not stand in their way. It’s easy to talk ourselves out of seemingly lofty goals. If we don’t try, there’s no chance of failure. But that’s just sad. We all deserve better.

3. They vanish if we ignore them. Our dreams deserve the light of day and the chance to come true. If we don’t nurture our aspirations, they’re likely to shrivel up like plants I try to take care of. 😉 I nearly think of mine as offspring. I want what’s best for them and will do anything in my power to ensure their thriving.

4. They invite naysayers. We’ve all had others criticize our dreams. Such criticism often derives from insecurity, jealousy, misunderstanding or misguided concern for our wellbeing. (“But how will you pay the bills?” “What will people think of you?” “That sounds so hard!”) The very uniqueness that makes our dreams wondrous frequently prevents others from understanding; if ___ was common, would you strive for it? No, because dreams are extraordinary. We should use naysayers’ words fuel to work harder.

5. They invite collaboration. Dreams are team ventures, whether we conjure and manage them on our own or not. That’s one reason we need to open our hearts and mouths and let them roam free! When we dream out loud, others not only hear them but often step up to play a role.

6. They’re powerful! I agree with what Eleanor Roosevelt said, that “future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” When our dreams are alive and well, our worlds illuminate—a beautiful thing, because giddiness and gumption make for awesome fuel and brighten up others’ lives as well.

7. They are gifts to ourselves and others. If we squelch our desires, we limit joy for ourselves and others. Another favorite quote of mine derives from my favorite philosopher, Oprah: “There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born. And how you become most truly alive.” So true, right? Withholding our dreams, on the other hand, arguably steals those gifts before they’re given.

8. They aren’t monetarily measurable. Money and a lack thereof seems to stand in the way of many people’s dream pursuits. While putting food on the table is vital, I think it’s important to remember that much of the most important work ever done doesn’t draw in money from the get-go. “Getting rich” isn’t an authentic dream, in my opinion. If we pursue our passions, riches of many kinds follow. If we fixate on money, we’re likely to turn into unhappy curmudgeons. (Think Scrooge.)

9. They can surface and evolve anytime. Dreams shouldn’t limited to our youth or postponed for impractical reasons. When we follow our instincts and passions, new dreams can flourish at any time; we don’t even have to know where we’re specifically headed, other than in the proper direction. If we fall down, we can stand back up and keep going. Many bumps and hiatuses evolve into turning points.

10. They’re celebration worthy! Simply having a dream is a gift—don’t you think? I recall a time when I had little sense of purpose. That apathy was worse than deep depression. If we’re blessed with ambition and a cause, we best cherish it. That means celebrating all along the way. Don’t wait to celebrate future accomplishments until you reach them; party now and perpetually.

What dreams are you working toward? Have any dreams or outcomes surprised you lately? Any points to add to my list? I always welcome your wonderful thoughts.

Gain #GirlBoner Gusto: 20 Ways to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

“In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” – Deepak Chopra

Letting go. The simple word pairing describes one of the most powerful concepts we can embrace. Letting go of a romance-gone-wrong makes way for peacefulness and, if and when we desire it, new love. Releasing anger and resentment allows us to forgive those who’ve caused wounds, preventing clouds of bitterness from tinkering with life’s sunshine and replacing “Why me?” with gratitude-induced rainbows. Today I want to challenge you to loosen your hold on barriers that inhibit your Girl Boner gusto, which is a term I use to describe loving and respecting your body and sexuality with curiosity, intent and glee. (Can I get a WOO HOO?)

Last week I had the honor of discussing Girl Boner with Dr. Lisa Masterson on her fabulous radio show, Health in Heels with Dr. Lisa. The practicing OB/GYN, mother, philanthropist, author and former cohost of the Emmy award-winning TV show, The Doctors is equally vivacious and sharp, and we had a BLAST exploring body image, sexuality and the unbreakable link between. (To listen to our full interview, scroll down to the link in the last paragraph.)

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Chatting about sexuality and body image with the fabulous Dr. Lisa!

After I explained the inspiration behind Girl Boner, here’s what Dr. Lisa had to say:

“We really are sort of backwards about sexuality, about pleasure, about physicality… What I’ve found in my practice is that girls that felt really comfortable with their bodies had a real sense of self and a real pride in themselves and their bodies—those were the ones least likely to get pregnant, to develop STDs, because they care about their bodies and themselves.”

She is so right! When we embrace our bodies as adults, we’re also more likely to have fulfilling relationships, feel and appear more attractive, practice self-care—which leads to fewer instances of chronic disease, stress and depression—and have more energy to invest in positive ventures. I also loved what Dr. Lisa had to say about swimming in the nude:

“The first time I went skinny-dipping with my girlfriends was last year in Fiji… It’s a freeing thing because it’s sort of getting over yourself, feeling comfortable with yourself. I can’t stress enough how important that is to feel good about [your] body.”

As I explained on her show, getting to that place of embracement can seem grueling, considering the multitudinous forces against us. On the bright side, however, such work is not only doable, but more empowering than most folks realize. It all starts with baby steps, in my opinion—taking even one bold step into a zone in which you would like to feel more comfortable. Not sure where to start? Consider the following suggestions.

20 Ways to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
& Into Girl Boner Embracement ♥
If you’re up for the challenge and eager for the scrumptious rewards of embracing your sexy self, choose one or several of the following suggestions to commit to in the coming days or weeks. Or let your mind wander and conjure your own. If your heart races slightly and your lips curve upward as you consider a practice you haven’t tried, it’s likely a great pick!

1. Spend more time naked or in your skivvies. (Sleeping, reading, cooking, cleaning…)
2. Say “I love my body” aloud at least once daily—sarcasm not allowed!
3. When you shower, explore your vagina with your fingers, doing your best to name each part.
4. Use a mirror or camera phone to observe your sexual anatomy.
5. Look at your full body naked in the mirror daily, thinking loving thoughts (and telling others to hush up!)
6. Buy yourself underwear or other apparel you feel sexy in!
7 . Read or write erotica.
8. Watch an erotic film.
9. Buy yourself a new, or your first, sex toy—and try it out!
10. If you’re fixated on weight and size, toss your scale in the trash and remove size tags from your clothes.
11. Stop the diet you know in your gut isn’t healthy and focus on enjoying a variety of (mostly whole) foods mindfully—with awareness and appreciation.
12. Take a pole dancing class!
13. Go out for a night on the town with your girlfriends, dressing however you feel happy, comfortable and sexy.
14. Write a love letter to your body, paying mind to its sexual capabilities and parts.
15. Make love by candlelight.
16. Masturbate by candlelight.
17. Share a sexual fantasy with your partner. If you’re both game, act on it!
18. Keep a sensuality journal, tracking sights, sounds, smells, tastes and happenings that tickle your senses—and, of course, those that tickle your Girl Boner!
19. Prioritize and initiate sex more often.
20. Remind yourself daily that your sexuality is not dirty, but beautiful, natural and worth embracing.

Regardless of how you go about gaining and maintaining Girl Boner gusto, what matters most is that you do. If we don’t prioritize sexual and body embracement, there’s a good chance they’ll fall to the wayside, ridding us of countless benefits—and that’s pretty tragic, in my opinion. You all deserve to live full, happy lives! Recognizing that our sexuality is a crucial part of that opens the door to wondrousness.

During our interview, when Dr. Lisa described skinny-dipping with girlfriends as a liberating way you to “get over yourself,” I was totally sold! (Telling her I’m “not much of a swimmer” was a bit like describing the North Poll as somewhat chilly, but I adore the concept. LOL)  Merely getting our feet wet, literally and figuratively, can be all it takes to set sexy self-embracement in motion.

What steps are you willing to take to better embrace your body and sensuality? Remember, there’s no shame or judgment here—only support! Which may include a few giddy, cheer-you-on squeals. 😉 I love hearing from you! If you decide to write that love letter to your body and would like to share it, post it on the Girl Boner Facebook page or email it to me for possible (anonymous, optionally) inclusion in an upcoming post. ♥

To listen to or download my chat with Dr. Lisa for FREE, visit Health in Heels on iTunes, Episode 11/14If you like what you hear, I hope you’ll consider posting a review of Dr. Lisa’s program! She deserves all the praise she can get. For a chance to have your sex or health-related questions answered on the air, tweet them to Dr. Lisa at @drLisaM using the hashtag #AskDrLisa.