What New Year’s Resolution Would You Set for Your Significant Other?

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.”  — Edith Lovejoy Pierce

I don’t often set New Year’s resolutions, but like many folks, I spend time around the holidays contemplating my previous year and what I hope the next will hold. This morning, I found myself contemplating other people’s goals—more specifically, resolutions I wish they would set.

I wish my friend Tracy would resolve to stop bashing her body shape and size and recognize the beauty she truly is. I wish the guy at my local gas station would stop uttering racist remarks. I wish every woman in the world would embrace her sexuality. I wish meat eaters would reduce their intake so that all cows could be raised free-roaming and grass-eating. I wish  Oprah would aspire to produce a Girl Boner TV show.

I wish, I wish, I wish…

Dreams come true… Is there an app for that?

Dreams, come true… There must be an app for that! #FairySelfie

Midway through my wish-fest daydream, my husband entered the room. We had the following conversation:

Me: What resolution do you wish I’d set this year?

Husband: To treat me as your lord and master. *snickers*

Me: Um… Take two.

Husband: Okay. How about to clean the counter? I just put my iPad down in a puddle of water.

Me: That puddle is there because I cleaned the counter! *smiles, batting eyes* Try again.

Husband: Okay, here’s a real one. Take a break from work every hour–ten minutes to walk away and rest your eyes.

Me: What if I’m in the middle of writing something really awesome???

Husband: Then finish and take a break when you’re done.

Don’t you just hate it when someone else is right? 😉 What my ever sharp and witty husband was getting at was the importance of self-care and rest. The latter, he well knows, isn’t my strong suit. I probably won’t be pausing hourly, but I plan to prioritize rest and play.

It isn’t easy to slow down or hit the pause button when our plates are full, particularly when we’re passionate about the contents. But as I continually learn, doing so strengthens us, our work and our lives in multiple important ways. The more we nurture ourselves, the more likely we are to bring our own aspirations into fruition. Besides, imagine all the fun and restful ways we can avoid doing housework!

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 Your turn! What resolution would you set for a loved one? What are you striving toward?  

Wishing you a beautiful kickoff to 2014. 

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  1. WordPress is trying my patience once more and refusing to load the like buttons so just want to let you know I popped by and wish you a Happy New Year

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  2. Okay. Thinking. Seriously.

    To my husband: I wish he could begin to think “what’s next?!” versus “what’s left?” That he could see and appreciate the good versus worry constantly about the “what ifs” that rarely materialize.

    To myself: Embrace the fact that God did not die and make me responsible for others moods and happiness. I own my actions, my mood, and my future. Others own theirs. Close the doors on the Gloria Richard Adopt-a-Mood/Problem Agency.

    2014 promises to be a banner year. I took a break from cleaning out a closet in preparation for our move to a downsized home — one either one of us can afford without the other.

    The Golden Heart deadline jolted my write-with-abandon paradigm, and it feels wonderful to write without inner editor (Gracie) nagging at me during the first draft.

    It feels wonderful to know I’ll soon say goodbye to this albatross of a house and set my GPS for wherever I choose to go on free-to-be-me road trips.

    That includes So Cal, GB Queen! Best get prepared for a night out with the girls.

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    • I can’t wait for our So Cal adventure! Huge congrats for your beautiful growth and empowering goals, Gloria. A banner year — I LOVE that. Your commitment to the self and unique voice will take you far, I’ve no doubt. 🙂

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  3. Love the selfie! What a sweet husband you have! Let’s see, for my husband I wish he would take less time getting ready in the bathroom than I do. There. I said it. I feel better even if he has no idea he is going to work on this in 2014. 🙂 Thanks for your inspiring words on your blog! Feliz Año Nuevo!

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  4. I laughed out loud at the image at the bottom–housework SO gets in the way of writing. 😀 I will strive to stop seeing those necessary chores as the bane of my existence.

    Do you have sparkles on your eyelashes? So cute!

    Happy New Year, August!

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    • Cute image, right?? Here’s a tip: Dim the lights! LOL

      Yes, my lashes were decked out in sparkly blue, thanks to my friend Sheri’s festive birthday party. 🙂 Happy New Year to you!

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  5. Love to join you and Gloria, but I don’t see So Cal in my near future.

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  6. Raani York

     /  December 31, 2013

    Happy New Year to you August. I’m about 9 hours ahead of you, this means, I’m already in 2014 while you’re still waiting for the old year to pass. 😛 LOL
    Just kidding!
    I don’t set New Years resolutions because I haven’t had a good idea for one for decades. That’s why I just set a fix goal. (I KNOW it’s nearly the same – but it sounds different. LOL) Maybe subconsciously it will work. 🙂
    At this moment I will keep it secret – but should I get this goal to become reality, I’ll let you know! 🙂
    Have a GREAT and amazing and successful 2014!!
    I’m proud to be able to call you my friend!

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  7. The problem I have with my new year resolutions is they usually run out of steam about mid-morning on the first day…But I’ve made a conscious decision for 2014 to have a better year than last – and with the full understanding that good fortune doesn;’t come anybody’s way; It has to be made.

    Happy New Year – and all the very best for 2014!

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  8. laurie27wsmith

     /  December 31, 2013

    That she would think more about herself.

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  9. I wish my husband would see himself the way I see him and not be so hard on himself. He’s pretty darn amazing and has accomplished a lot more than he gives himself credit for (including losing over 150 lbs.)

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  10. Great post, August! I wanted to send you a New Year’s gift. That’s really why I am here. Enjoying the reading of your post was a great addition. So, the gift: have you seen http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/12/men-can-transform-masculinity/?upw
    Read it and let me know what you think.
    Scott

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    • Hey, Scott! Happy New Year. Wow, that IS a gift. Thanks so much for sharing. The article makes some invaluable points, to be sure. 🙂 I hope 2014 brings you all the joy you deserve, and then some.

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  11. For Elise, 16: To sit next to daddy while she does her homework. You never know what I might know about. And there’s usually snacks.
    For Marie, 13: To embrace the new friendship that could emerge from an old rival. You two are so much alike, that’s why you clash.
    For Grace, 9: To keep the ideas and questions coming, and to ride on my back while you still can. Every chance you get.
    For August: To write a guest post for Coach Daddy. Just once.

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    • Well with words like that, how could I not? I’d be happy to contribute at some point. Thanks for being an awesome dad to your girls!

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      • Sweet! Let’s talk.

        Being a dad to girls is such an incredible responsibility – I’m just honored to have it.

  12. I like that last graphic about writing being a convenient excuse for avoiding housework. I agree. Ironically, when I’m procrastinating my writing work, I switch to cleaning mode. So it all balances out. 🙂 Happy new year, August!

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  13. Equally important is playful banter between spouses. Love it! That’s the stuff that keeps a marriage going. Happy New Year!

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  14. Kourtney Heintz

     /  January 11, 2014

    Aw what an awesome resolution for your husband to have for you. I’m going to try a few simple ones this year. One is move more–I think I can succeed at that daily and feel happy about it. 🙂

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  15. You know, August, I am not burdened by much of a sense of priority. If I am writing, fine. If I am not, fine. Housework gets done. I try to never stress. Because of this, my blood pressure, taken Friday with I was in the throes of severe illness and coughing fits hard enough to nearly pass out, was 116 / 66. It used to run normally about 160 / 95. People would tell me salt, exercise, good sleep. Those things might, and probably do, affect all of us in one form or another, but, apparently, stress was my biggie. I am on medication for bp, but I was when it always ran high. My point here is that I still find myself worrying when I am not done with something that would keep til tomorrow. I still rush when I should rest. I, basically, got sick because of the pressure I put myself unto to have the NYD dinner that I usally host. – Rest, August, rest.
    Scott

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